This commentary is by Thomas West of Manchester. He is a father of four, an openly gay Army veteran, and co-author of “A Kids Book About Gay Parents,” which he wrote with his husband to celebrate diverse family structures. He serves on Manchester’s planning commission and was recently elected as a justice of the peace.
The election season has concluded, and far too many of us are grappling with a complex mix of emotions — relief, disappointment, hope, fear, anger and uncertainty. As I reflect on the results, I can’t help but personally feel a deep sense of fear and disappointment. Fear for the well-being of minorities and historically marginalized communities whose lives are profoundly affected by the outcomes of these elections. And disappointment in how oblivious our nation can be to the real-world impact of political choices on our neighbors, friends and even our own families.
This election was more than just another moment in our nation’s history; it has immediate and personal consequences for many among us. It felt like a setback for women, children and the countless hardworking immigrants who contribute so much to our country. I know people seeking emergency court orders for name changes, scrambling to update their identification documents and even discussing international or underground methods to access essential medical care. Some are exploring job opportunities overseas, uncertain about their future in a country they call home. These are not abstract fears; they are real actions taken by real people in our own communities in response to policies threatening their basic rights and safety.
The dangerous rhetoric we’re hearing isn’t just causing division; it’s opening the door for those who wish to do us harm — not only nationally but right here in Vermont. In my own home, we’re actively discussing what we call a “red line”—a point at which we must make tough decisions to protect our children. While we hope it never comes to that, I strongly encourage everyone to have similar conversations with those closest to you. Now is the time to be vigilant, to engage with your neighbors and to collectively safeguard our community and values.
It’s also disheartening to realize that many are unaware of, or indifferent to, the struggles faced by the most vulnerable among us. The election results have made it clear that there’s a disconnect between the ideals we teach and the actions we take as a society. We can agree to disagree on the steps we need to take to achieve our goals and aspirations, but we must draw the line when those steps violate anyone’s fundamental human rights. This boundary should unite us all, regardless of our political affiliations.
Our children are also watching and feeling the weight of these times. The morning after the election, my two nine-year-olds woke up feeling heartbroken and, quite frankly, afraid. They asked me if their dads would still be allowed to stay married and worried if they’d be taken away from the family they know and love. Those were their exact words as we sat together eating breakfast the following day, as well as real-world examples I’ve heard from families within my own circle right here in Vermont.
As a parent, it was heartbreaking to see their fear — a stark reminder of how political decisions ripple into the hearts of our youngest ones. But — and this is incredibly important — it also strengthened my determination to move forward with hope and to work towards a community where every child feels safe, seen and loved.
Now more than ever, it’s important for all of us to get more involved. So, join something that connects you with others — it doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it helps you stay connected with your neighbors. Being part of a community strengthens our bonds and reinforces the democratic values we all cherish here in Vermont.
I think the most important thing we can do as a community to fight back against outside forces is to focus on the different organizations and groups that make up the fabric of our society. These are the places where many of us are engaged — our kids’ schools, non-profits or places of worship.
I urge each of you to stand up and take action. Let’s connect with our neighbors, engage in difficult conversations and work together to defend and uphold our shared values. Now is the time to be proactive, organize and make our voices heard.
Together, we can transform our frustration into fuel for real, positive change, ensuring that our community is one where everyone feels seen and valued.
Read the story on VTDigger here: Thomas West: Confronting our fears.